Appreciating your partner will add to your own sense of fulfilment and satisfaction, How will your partner know you appreciate her? Yes, she may notice some positive changes in you, perhaps you’ll seem warmer, more open, more accepting, more affectionate or less grumpy, irritable, judgemental or critical. But she may not have the slightest idea why. So how about telling her? You know how good it feel when someone acknowledge your contribution, why not give your partner that pleasure. Here are a few examples:
“I really appreciate you look after the house.”
“Thank you for working so hard to help us have this lifestyle.”
“I am glad you are in my life. Thank you for being here.”
“I love feeling your body next to me in bed.”
“I know the efforts you are making with my parents. I know how hard it is for you.”
And keep in mind, you can show appreciation without words. You might stroke your partner or hug him or give him a kiss. You might cook her a meal, buy some flowers or make her a cup of tea. Words however are important. For most people, words carry a lot of weight.
Expressing appreciation bring both of you closer together, it also allows you to positively influence your partner behaviour.
