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Don’t Just Appreciate. Say Something!
Appreciating your partner will add to your own sense of fulfilment and satisfaction, How will your partner know you appreciate her? Yes, she may notice some positive changes in you, perhaps you’ll seem warmer, more open, more accepting, more affectionate or less grumpy, irritable, judgemental or critical. But she may not have the slightest idea why. So how about telling her? You know how good it feel when someone acknowledge your contribution, why not give your partner that p
Ivan Lim
Nov 20, 20201 min read
Appreciating Your Partner - The Art of Appreciation
At times appreciation comes naturally. When you are hungry and someone feeds you, when someone does you a favour, in these moments, appreciation happens spontaneously. But most of the time we fail to appreciate. If you cultivate appreciation for your partner then both of you will benefit. The more you notice the many ways your partner contributes to your life, the more satisfied you will feel in your relationship. Ands the more your partner feel appreciated the more he/she is
Ivan Lim
Nov 20, 20202 min read
Life must be lived moment by moment.
Life must be lived moment by moment. Each moment brings possibilities for purposeful activity. Each moment carries a message, a lesson for us. In PATH’s (Purposeful Action Therapy) we extend the influence of the lessons beyond the therapy hour by use of assignments. The clients may be asked to keep a journal of daily feelings and behaviours, to reflect on moment-by-moment purposes, to recall past debts and repay them, to write letters of concern or gratitude, to do exercise t
Ivan Lim
Nov 12, 20202 min read
Look Inside Your Heart – Discovering your values.
“Can you please fix my partner?” When couples go to counseling, this is usually their agenda. This is really not a helpful attitude. If you really want to make your relationship thrive, the most effective place to start working is on yourself. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and consider these questions: • What sort of partner are you? • What sort of partner you want to be? • Is there a gap between who you want to be and the way you are acting now? Values are your
Ivan Lim
Nov 12, 20202 min read
Take a walk – A great help to many depressed people.
Walking provides for observing the world. The faster we walk the less we see. Walking keep me interested without flooding my senses with exhausting speed. Our minds seem to operate as though our bodies are in motion. Our minds eagerly process information as we stroll down the street. When we sit or lie awake for long period, our minds seem to work just as we are walking but now without the stimulus input provided by walking. So our minds generate their own stimuli. For some p
Ivan Lim
Nov 12, 20202 min read
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